Psychotherapy is not easily described in general statements. It varies depending on the therapist and client and the particular issues you bring forward. There are many different methods that therapists may use to accomplish helping you make the changes that you wish to accomplish. We will work together to find a method that works for you.
Therapy to me is the dialectic of acceptance AND change.
On one hand there are many things we need to work on accepting AND on the other hand things we need to change or work to improve. In order for therapy to be most successful it is important to be open, give it a little time, and most effective when you work on things we talk about, by journaling or keeping a binder. You are learning YOU and taking notes can be helpful.
Psychotherapy can have benefits and risks.
Since therapy often involves discussing unpleasant aspects of your life, you may experience uncomfortable feelings like sadness, guilt, anger, frustration, and loneliness. Those are useful. Emotions can be hard, and yet very useful tools. Therapy also can lead to better relationships, most importantly the one with yourself. You may learn solutions to specific problems, or a different way of looking at it, reducing distress and suffering to otherwise painful experiences in life. We have to feel it to let it go, so the saying goes. There are no guarantees of what you will experience in therapy, but like anything, what you put into it, affects what you get out.
“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”
– Henry David Thoreau
Counseling involves change, which may feel threatening, not only to you, but also to those people close to you. The prospect of giving up old habits, no matter how destructive or painful, can often make you feel vulnerable. And that is true courage, to face those things. At the same time, counseling can aid in discovering tools and techniques, which can be utilized to improve the quality of your life and relationships. As the person involved in this process, you do have the right to ask your counselor questions about his/her professional experience, background and theoretical orientation. I invite that. I also invite feedback because trauma-informed client- centered therapy is an idea I wholeheartedly believe in. And I personally want this process to be for your benefit and growth.
You can expect the first few sessions to involve an evaluation of your needs, but also feedback and skills right away.
I share my insights in a collective egalitarian way, to encourage you to engage and think about ideas. I’m not the expert on you, YOU ARE, but sometimes accessing that on our own is very hard. We need others. We are all interconnected.
Therapy works best when there is a good fit and rapport with your therapist.
I invite you to discuss any concerns with me and if we don’t match well, or I know another therapist who has skills in a way that you may benefit from more readily, like couples counseling, I will be happy to assist in processing and finding a therapist that fits with you and your needs better. This is your process. This is your journey.
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